In today’s ever-evolving job market, the ability to pivot your career path is not just an advantage; it’s a necessity. Whether driven by personal desire for change, industry shifts, or unforeseen global events, transitioning into new industries or roles requires a strategic approach. Drawing on years of experience helping professionals redefine their career trajectories, this guide offers actionable steps for successfully navigating a career pivot.
A career pivot refers to a significant change in your professional direction. This could involve shifting to a new industry, adopting a different role within your current field, or starting a venture of your own. The essence of a career pivot is leveraging your existing skills and experiences in a new, often seemingly unrelated context.
Begin with a thorough self-assessment by asking yourself “Who are you?” then clarify your strengths, weaknesses, interests, and values. Understanding what drives you, what you’re good at, and where you want to go is crucial. Set clear, achievable goals for what you hope to accomplish through your desire to pivot.
Identify the skills and experiences you’ve accumulated that are transferable to your new desired path. Conduct a gap analysis to determine what additional skills or knowledge you need to acquire. This step is critical in positioning yourself as a viable candidate in your new field.
Based on your gap analysis, embark on a targeted learning and development plan. This could include formal education, online courses, workshops, or self-directed learning. The goal is to build the necessary competencies that align with your pivot goals.
Networking is invaluable in a career pivot. Start building connections within your target industry or role. Attend industry events, join relevant online communities, and seek informational interviews. Networking can provide insider insights, advice, and potentially open doors to opportunities.
Your ability to articulate your career pivot story is paramount. This narrative should connect the dots between your past experiences and your future aspirations, highlighting how your unique background positions you as a strong candidate for your new path. Your pivot story will be a key component of your resumes, cover letters, and interviews. Storytelling is crucial to turning an interview into a conversation.
Approach your job search with a strategy tailored to your pivot. Customize your resume and cover letter for each application, emphasizing your transferable skills and pivot story. Utilize your network to uncover opportunities and gain referrals.
A successful career pivot often requires persistence, adaptability, and resilience. Be prepared for challenges and setbacks. View each experience as a learning opportunity and remain flexible in your approach.
Mastering the art of the career pivot is a journey of self-discovery, learning, and growth. It requires strategic planning, dedication, and a willingness to step out of your comfort zone. With the right approach, you can navigate the transition smoothly and emerge on a path that is not only new but truly aligned with your professional aspirations and personal values.
By embracing the steps outlined in this guide, you equip yourself with the tools and mindset needed to turn the concept of a career pivot from a daunting challenge into an achievable, exciting opportunity. Remember, the most successful career paths are not always linear; they’re often a reflection of our ability to adapt, grow, and redefine success on our own terms.
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In the realm of job hunting and career advancement, the power of a well-told story cannot be overstated. This truth holds especially for those during a job search, where distinguishing oneself from the competition is paramount.
Crafting compelling narratives for resumes, cover letters, and interviews not only captures the essence of an individual’s career journey but also resonates deeply with potential employers, setting the stage for success. Here’s an exploration into the art of storytelling in your job search.
“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget the way you made them feel”Maya Angelou
At the heart of every job application is a story waiting to be told. It’s the narrative of your professional life, replete with challenges faced, skills honed, and victories achieved.
Your resume serves as the canvas for your career story. It’s not just a list of jobs and duties; it’s a curated collection of your most impactful achievements, skills, and experiences. To transform your resume into a compelling narrative:
The cover letter is your opportunity to connect with potential employers on a personal level. This is where your unique story shines, providing context to the achievements listed on your resume and giving insight into your motivations, passions, and career aspirations. In crafting your cover letter:
Interviews are where the power of storytelling truly comes to life. This is your moment to transform numbers and bullet points into vivid stories that illustrate your problem-solving capabilities, leadership qualities, and resilience. To master storytelling in interviews:
Crafting compelling stories as your narrative for your job search is an art that requires reflection, creativity, and practice. I suggest starting by mining your career for stories that highlight your unique skills, the challenges you’ve overcome, and the moments that have defined your professional journey. Each narrative should serve a purpose, whether it’s to illustrate your leadership skills, your innovative thinking, or your ability to thrive in challenging environments.
In the competitive landscape of job searching, storytelling emerges not just as a skill but as a necessity. A well-crafted story can set you apart, making your application memorable and engaging. It’s about more than just landing a job; it’s about connecting on a human level, sharing your journey, and inspiring potential employers to see you as the protagonist of your shared future success.
By embracing the power of storytelling, you unlock a potent tool in your job search arsenal, one that captures the essence of your career journey and propels you toward your goals. So, as you step forward, remember the impact of your narrative and let your story lead the way.
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As a career coach, there are many people today who are looking to pivot, transform, and move to new areas of their lives from a career perspective.
In a world where career landscapes are continuously shifting, the ability to transform skills into opportunities becomes a pivotal asset for anyone aiming to navigate the twists and turns of their professional journey. This guide will walk you through identifying your existing skills, adapting them to new contexts, and leveraging strategic insights for a career transformation that aligns with your ambitions and the evolving job market.
Finding out who you are rather than what you do is the key to unlocking the skills you need to craft, tell, and sell your story. The skills are then embedded into the picture of your life rather than stand-alone skills with no context.
Identifying gaps in your skill set relative to your desired career path is crucial. Once you’ve pinpointed these gaps, you can start to bridge them through further education, online courses, workshops, or self-study. Remember, learning is a continuous process, and the willingness to acquire new skills is a powerful tool in career transformation.
Once you’ve mapped out your skills, the next step is to understand where these skills fit in the current job market. Research industries and roles that are in growth mode and see where there’s an overlap with your skill set. You might find that your expertise in one area can seamlessly transfer to another field with minimal adaptation.
The quote by Maya Angelou: “People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget the way you made them feel”
So it is imperative to adapt your skills, your background, and your work experience into a story that makes a company, a new employer or an organization FEEL YOUR VALUE.
Networking is not just about making connections; it’s about making the right connections. Engage with professionals and communities within your target field. Attend industry events, join online forums, and participate in discussions. These connections can offer valuable insights into your chosen field and open doors to opportunities that might not be publicly advertised.
Your resume and cover letter are your personal marketing tools. They should not only highlight your skills and experiences but also demonstrate your ability to adapt and thrive in new environments. Use them to tell a story of transformation and growth, emphasizing your readiness to tackle new challenges.
In today’s digital age, online platforms like LinkedIn play a crucial role in job hunting and career development. Ensure your online profiles reflect your latest skills and career aspirations. Regularly update your achievements and engage with content relevant to your desired field to increase your visibility to potential employers.
Not every attempt at career transformation will be smooth. Embrace setbacks as opportunities to learn and refine your approach. Each challenge is a chance to reassess your strategy, strengthen your resolve, and move forward with renewed focus and determination.
Feedback is a powerful tool for growth. Seek it from mentors, coaches, peers, and even from interviews that don’t result in a job offer. Understanding how others perceive your skills and application can provide critical insights into how to better position yourself for your dream career.
The job market is ever-evolving, and so should your approach to career transformation. Stay open to opportunities that may lead you down a path you hadn’t considered before. Sometimes, the best opportunities are the ones we least expect.
Every step you take towards transforming your career, no matter how small, is progress. Celebrate these milestones to stay motivated. Whether it’s completing a course, making a new connection, or landing an interview, each achievement brings you closer to your goal. Transforming your career through strategic skill adaptation is not just about finding a new job. It’s about redefining your professional identity to align with your passions, values, and the changing world of work. By knowing your story you will have the confidence and conviction to share who you are and what you offer. Remember, the only constant in life is change, and by mastering the art of skill transformation, you ensure that you’re always ready to meet it head-on.
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When we learn to attune ourselves to our inner compass, we follow a map that only we can then see, our own path.
Throughout our lives, from basically the time we were born, we were asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” What would you like to become? Where are you going to go to school? What are you thinking of doing with your life? How many of you reading this right now are raising your hand? Now, how many of you were asked by your parents, teachers, friends, or colleagues the question, “Who are You?” If you don’t have a reason to raise your hand, this is where the rubber meets the road.
The purpose of knowing who you are is to know your value. It’s to create a roadmap for your individual journey to get you where you need to go, not where others have guided you. These roadmaps are made up of moral codes. parables and, in some cases, detailed memories of remembering what brought you joy and happiness, and you felt like you were in the flow when someone came in and squashed that feeling.
Our internal map are based on observations from the past, and we are living in the present, so we are the only true experts on our journey to finding our purpose and putting it into our profession. We may be called to change direction entirely so that the maps we have been carrying no longer apply. These are the moments when we learn to attune ourselves to our own inner compass and draw upon the places and spaces we find our happiness and joy. Following a map that only we can see as we make our way into the unknown territory of our own making.
As Gen Z’s and millennials, we are navigating a very delicate balance of building careers, building our network and communities, our relationships, and creating a home in a rental apartment, all while attempting to tend to our own self-care and crossing over the lines of young adult to adulthood.
So many people, post-Covid, are experiencing loads of uncertainty in a rapidly changing world. We’re dealing with a global pandemic, environmental crises, fractured economics, and too much time on social media, getting our self-esteem kicked in the ass.
It can be overwhelming and scary. But as long as we remain open and curious and dig deep into who we are and are willing to learn and listen, there are many things in life we can have agency for and create a container for that will help us cross the divider of young adult into adulthood without crashing.
When we go back and reconstruct our true selves, we can rebuild the internal map that will lead us down the road and back home…to ourselves.
How many of you are going through the “stuckies?” A place where nothing you are doing seems to be moving through the mucky waters. The deep muddy waters that are grabbing hold and not allowing you to be in your flow?
Oftentimes in life, we go through a period of whatever we do or trying to do feels like sh*t. The constant monkey mind of what am I doing? Where am I going in my life, career? How am I ever gonna find my soulmate or roommate? How am I gonna advance in my life? The constant questioning that keeps us stuck.
The powerful flow of life and practicing non-resistance is where the opportunities lie. It is there that life does not always give us what we want, but it does give us what we need. Life does not happen to us. It happens for us. With this mindset, we begin to push out the sh** that does not serve us and begin to recognize our strength is to loose the bull and start to get into a flow that brings the fulfillment we desire in life.
Throughout history and our lives, we have used the word SHIT to describe our situations, our feelings, our thoughts, and our worlds. Some words we use to describe our state of being:
I have often thought that it would be wonderful if someone came up with the idea of having a colonic for your brain, so all the shit that we think about every day that is just clogging us up could be easily cleansed, and we could start every day with a cleaned out brain, why just our assess? We are mentally, spiritually, and emotionally clogged.
I have often wondered why we continually find ourselves in the same container of thoughts that do not serve us. It’s like whipping up Kraft Macaroni and Cheese every day, knowing how bad it is for us, but we continue to eat it. Why do we continue to allow to be served things that don’t serve us?
I often think about people’s souls. Is your relationship with them part of your soul contract? What if you weren’t meant to have that particular child, or marry that particular husband, or have that type of mother or be in that job? Are we all put on this earth to finish our soul contracts? Have we all been here before in different incarnations, and if so, how do we play this one out?
I often think, why is it that people give you “sound bites” with no actual meaning to the words they are speaking?
I often think, why is it when you look back at your life that everything you thought about and cared about changes? If it does, why do we think about its gravity and weight of it? Why can’t we view it as weightless and move the fuck on? Let’s come clean.
But what are we really saying when we use these words to describe our feelings? It is the ego’s way of saying I feel crappy, so I am now going to defend myself by labeling you so I can feel better about myself. How can we Shift our Shit to lose this bullshit of a word and find the fulfillment we are all looking to truly feel?
By understanding how our brain functions and we can feel ourselves from our thoughts around our situations and find the inner peace, we are seeking in all of our lives.
Instead of reacting, we can go inside and view what is causing the reaction and come from our truth.
Who Do You Want To Be?
Another shift can be: SMART.
Shifting Your Shit:
It starts with boundary setting. Boundary setting is finding out what your Must Have’s, Non-Negotiable, and negotiables are. Once you have established this in your mind and set it into your body, everything you do, say, act upon comes from this space.
When we sit in our shit, we continually crap all over ourselves. When we sit in our truth, magical universal shifts take form, and our worlds become a cleaner, healthier place to be. Are you ready to come clean and surrender to what is for you?
Throughout the past four years of starting YourCareerDesignLab I have come to the conclusion and realization that we grow up not knowing who we are. Our “stories” are those that were taught, assimilated, coercers, convinced, and told that when we get into our 20’s, 30’s, 40’s, and up to our 60’s, the search is on. To find who the f**k we really are.
I have had the amazing opportunity to dig deep into young and old people alike, pondering that question and now asking, Who Am I and What Do I Want To Become?
Here are several stories of some of my clients who decided to excavate themselves, dig deep, and came up with epiphanies that took them on the journey now to becoming what they are meant to become. I have changed the names to protect their privacy, but their stories are all true.
Susan came to me through her mother, who was worried that Susan, in her mid 20’s, was having an identity crisis. She had done extremely well at her college in Boston. Actually had worked for a well-known psychologist as that was her major and had planned to go on to get her Master’s and Ph.D. But after school ended, thoughts of being good enough to achieve her set goals crept in, and she found herself stuck. Stuck to the point for the past 4 months, she laid on a couch watching Netflix, unable to move really.
When we started to work together, Susan talked to me about her dreams, her aspirations, and her goals but didn’t know where to begin. I practiced NLP ( Neuro-Linguistic Programming) to help her with her limiting beliefs. From there, we dug up her passions of loving baking and cooking for family and friends. After we crafted a resume that spoke of her passion and her culinary pursuits, she landed a job in the kitchen at a well-known high-end restaurant near where she lived. She loved it, she learned, she grew. From there, she was asked to help in a bakery where she learned how to make bread that serviced all the bakeries and restaurants in NYC. Now, after two years of having experiential experiences, she NOW has decided to explore going back to garner her Ph.D. in Psychology and become a life coach for young adults like herself.
Bruce was a young man attending college and, as a junior, decided to become an accountant. We discovered that throughout his life, especially in middle school, when his professor said he would be good in accounting, he persuaded it. Unfortunately, he did not know the first thing about applying or what was necessary to apply for an accounting position, and so throughout his life, he had only worked as a bartender and a caddy. A far cry from accounting. But through his excavation, he found out that he did, in fact, use accounting in his bartending job by setting up outside seating when patrons were waiting long hours for their table. He was able to create a way of enhancing the bar’s income by creating a seating area where patrons would order drinks and light bites prior to being seating. This brought in additional revenue for the company. In addition, Bruce was a connector and loved talking with people, which made him a perfect candidate for becoming an accountant and working with clients. All to say, by connecting his past, he discovered that it was his football coach, who also happened to be his math teacher, that changed his trajectory.
When Tisha went through her excavation process, she dug up some real dirt. When she spoke about her upbringing, it brought tears to my eyes. But her grit and determination inspired me. I showed her that her background led her to look at monies as a way to freedom and independence. Her passion is to bring that same financial independence to clients should she get the job. Again through her Grit, she enrolled in an accelerated program at school, worked full time, and now was applying to accounting careers as well. But now, instead of her narrative being one of negativity, remorse, and jaded, she was able to turn her background into the fertile ground of planting the seeds that would help her to become the success she was destined to become.
All to say, your background, your upbringing, and your stories are the threads that weave your story. Without knowing your story, it is pretty difficult to walk into a career opportunity, and when the preverbal question arises, “Tell me a little about yourself,” and you start to rattle off, “ I just graduated from the University of Virginia, I have a 3.5 GPA, I worked at… You can now tell your story that actually tells volumes of who you are and from that place where you are going by what you have been working at.
Don’t be afraid to find out who you are. The good, the bad, the ugly. When woven together, it makes a beautiful tapestry that is uniquely yours and that you can blanket the potential employer or business with. Dig deep, excavate, discover and recover your past so that you can reframe it and picture yourself in the future you are meant to have.
When I was around 12 years old, my cousins Margot and Linda, and I were at the World’s Fair in Montreal.
I told them how Davey Jones, the adorable singer from The Monkey’s – one of the most popular singing boy bands of its time in the 60s and 70s – wrote me a letter and wanted to date me.
I had visited our grandmother in Palm Springs and he and the rest of The Monkey’s were there staying at the same hotel. Davey had seen me (I was 12 years old!) and asked what my name was.
He said I was so cute and that he would like to see me. I told them how he took me for a ride on The Monkey’s mobile -A souped-up car that had the Monkee’s visual on the side of the car-.
Margot and Linda sat cross-legged on the bed with their mouths agape listening to my story.
I was so believable, that it was hard to imagine the impossibility of someone 20 years older looking at me let alone, talking to me would be a criminal offense now!
But when I was talking to my cousins they hung on every word.
At 13 years old, I told everyone that our family was moving to Beverly Hills. Every friend that I knew, I would go into a whole story about how we were moving to Beverly Hills so I could attend better schools and that I would be going to school with celebrity children and that Dean Martin’s daughter and I would be besties. I crafted, told, and sold this story to everyone I knew, including my parents.
I actually ended up doing a PowerPoint presentation albeit on a poster board telling them how moving there would improve all of our lives, I guess living in the suburbs of Los Angeles wasn’t good enough for me.
LOL Within a year, my story became a reality.
Storytelling is the social and cultural activity of sharing stories, sometimes with improvisation, theatrics, or embellishment.
Every culture has its own stories or narratives, which are shared as a means of entertainment, education, cultural preservation, or instilling moral values.
Over the past three years, I have worked with hundreds of individuals ranging from 17-67 years of age, and throughout there is a common denominator to their story-truth.
I have a prompt on my TA DA list that asks, “What were you doing in your room or outside, where you found yourself lost in pure joy, happiness, and passion when time passed until your mom called you for dinner?”.
That prompt opens up a can of stories where the individual goes back in their time machine and sees in front of them the child before life got in the way of who and what they are and perhaps in some cases what they are truly meant to be.
When we find our stories, we find ourselves. We are able to understand what brought us to this point in our lives and define us or in many cases where I have heard some horrific stories, find the inner strength, courage and fortitude to become a warrior and go after our dreams.
Stories define us and allow us to connect on a level many don’t get the opportunity to. This is why storytelling in an interview changes the dynamic instantly from an interview into a conversation and connects you in a way most interviewers do not expect, yet sets you apart. Makes you memorable.
Post-Covid, connection is key to finding your place in the career space, and finding your story of who you are and being able to tell it with confidence and conviction is key to landing your dream career.
A good story, when told with details like the Who. What, Where, Why, and How, paints a picture. It brings to life your authentic self and allows others to see YOU as well.
For example, take Sofia.
Sofia had just graduated from the University of Florida and wanted to get into sales. We began to break down all the preverbal questions every employer asks like “Tell me something about yourself?” She began with the standard, “I just graduated from U of Florida, I have a 3.8 GPA, I studied…” I stopped her there.
The wall went up and as an interviewer myself, I went blank. At that moment, I had her do the TA-DA prompt. She began again, this time I listened:
“When I was 5 years old my mom opened up my Dora Explorer backpack and out fell $20.00 bills. You see I wanted to buy food in the cafeteria, but my mom wouldn’t let me. Every day she made salami sandwiches with 5 slices of salami in the sandwich. At that moment, I would tell all my friends, it’s too bad you have to buy food in the cafeteria like hot dogs and pizza. I get to eat this amazing salami from Italy and she would act out the deliciousness. They bought it, so much so that the little children, she went on to explain would line up and pay her $5.00 for each slice!!!”
This story told potential employers that sales wasn’t something she learned in school, it was in her DNA!
On my website www.yourcareerdesignlab.com under case studies, you can hear the stories from clients who through theirs have found and landed their dream careers.
There is story after story of how the thread from our childhoods weaves our background and experiences together and it is through this needling of the various threads that we become a tapestry to share with others. When we blanket people with our stories there becomes a connection, an understanding, a vulnerability that is shared, and only when shared becomes a reality.
Stories give us context, a picture, a framework to which to see through and allow others to see us. This is why we are drawn to Netflix, Hulu, movies, theatre the arts because we long to be drawn into a world of others that reflect upon our own experiences. This opens up our worlds.
While Margot and Linda to this day, tell me how unbelievable my story was, they somehow believed it because I did. I later had the opportunity to meet Davey Jones at a theatre where he was performing in Miami and told him the story. His body language told me he could care less. Storytelling was my reality and I am sticking to it.
Where do limiting beliefs come from? While many therapists, psychologists, and theorists might ponder, it comes from our childhood, It comes from being compared to others, it comes from “Johnny scored a home run, why didn’t you?” It comes from “she got the lead?!!!”.
Throughout my practice, when I pose the preverbal question “Tell me about yourself?” 9 out of 10 times throughout the conversation I hear the following statements:
And the narrative beats on…
When I bring up the concept that those statements are made with limiting beliefs, a light bulb goes off and my clients want to know more.
It comes from labels that were put on us at a young age when our well-meaning parents and teachers used adjectives such as he’s shy, he’s loud, she’s mean, she’s a trouble maker which becomes our core beliefs.
When I use the “TA-DA” list to excavate my client’s background, inevitably we begin to find the bolder that has stopped us from achieving our deepest goals and aspirations. Fear is another factor whereby only awareness is the catalyst for the recovery of the deepest wounds we all carry.
Until the bandaid is ripped off, and the sting eases can we begin to tap into who we truly are and who we are truly meant to become.
I remember a time recently when I held a workshop at an amazing adult camp in Upstate New York. The title of the workshop was “How To Shift Your Shit” lose the Bull and Gain the Fulfillment of Your Life.”
I got a feeling that the only question of each person who attended was: “Who Are You?”.
Like an onion peal one young, beautiful and accomplished young woman answered, “ I just graduated from Cornell with a degree in Bioengineering.”
Again I questioned, “Who Are You?”. She again with confidence answered, “I am a girlfriend, a daughter, a great friend, a wonderful roommate…”
Again I dug deeper and asked, “ Who are you?”. This time instead of the answers of accomplishments, tears started streaming down her beautiful face to reveal, “ I don’t know who I am”.
From that moment, the Chasm to her beliefs was open and peeled back with someone who spent her whole life believing in her accomplishments but not the biggest one…Herself.
Once she understood that all true accomplishments come first from loving ourselves, parenting ourselves, and owning all the parts that make us who we are. In that sense, our limiting beliefs appear in the back mirror so that the road ahead becomes vast, open, and exciting. Upon remembering your childhood, facing your truth becomes a kaleidoscope of wonderment and beauty.
When we sit in our limiting beliefs it is like you are driving in the slow lane on 1-95 trying to get to your destination. You can see the fast lane and know that is what will get you to your destination or carer but the limiting beliefs keep you in the slow lane.
To move over and free yourself from fear and your limiting beliefs, and move over to the lane that will get you to where you want to go, you need to go back to a time when you got lost in your room or outside where joy, passion, freedom resided and you got lost in time before your mom called you for dinner.
Who were you? What were you doing? What was bringing you joy and fulfillment before the world got hold of your thoughts and aspirations? Sit for a moment and ponder that thought or better yet download my free TA-DA list and use the prompts to dump the contents of your beautiful brain onto the list and go back to find the person, your essence your true calling before labels like 3M sticky notes were pasted all over your head.
We begin the journey of undoing the fears of our limiting beliefs from our past so that we can claim love, peace, and freedom that abound and are with you at this present moment. Undoing is the operative word. Deep within all of us is a belief in who we are and who we are meant to become to live our best life. There is nothing “out there” that can come from fear.
So many young adults today ponder why they cannot land their dream careers. Because unconsciously they go into job interviews with these limiting beliefs. It is my purpose to coach each and everyone to learn who they are, let go of limiting beliefs, and do the work that gives you the confidence and conviction to go into any job opportunity and land it because you brought it with you besides your resume – YOURSELF! You brought the you that has value, skillsets, and passion, you brought the you that is a team player who enjoys playing with others, and more importantly and affirm that you are who you are and there is no one better.
This process is essential and transformative. It puts into motion the guidance and freedom from your past beliefs and brings inner peace in the present.
Are you ready to let go? Move forward and reclaim YOU!
“Owning our own story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy-the experiences that make us vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”Brene Brown
“Who Are You?” When was there a time in your life when someone cared to ask that question? Or were the ones of the messages that pertained to your achievements like “What tennis team are you on?” “What college are you going to?” “What is your GPA?”.
The list goes on for What do you do, but Who Are You? In our society that question seems to be the most important, the most pivotal, the most vulnerable and yet we never ask.
Have you ever been to a cocktail event when someone ever asked, “Who are You? or is it “What do you do for a living?” What we do is not how we live. It is one of those questions that make you ponder for what I deemed during Covid “thinkubate.” Think about who you are and what makes you the unique individual you are.
Storytelling is essential as a pathway to come to know who we are and what and where we truly belong.
It is not the story that stems from our pain kinda of story or that gets us stuck in our story, but rather a way to understand our past and what brought us joy, happiness and a sense of belonging not to anyone, but to ourselves.
Today’s catch words and phrases like “People-pleasing, “Low self-esteem” OCD, Imposter syndrome, anxiousness have all become a badge of honor for Gen Z’s. How do we change that narrative to self acceptance at all costs?
Here are five steps to step into your true and authentic self:
1. The first course of action when seeking a career is to first identify who you are, what is best for you and then seek out mentors who can be your GPS to getting to where you need and want to go. Listening to outside voices who believe they know you better than you know yourself or people who have a belief that their way is better for you are sorrily mistaken. Check out our TA DA list that prompts you to ponder this question.
2. Failure breeds success and unless we allow for failure, the pendulum to the above catchphrases cannot diminish. You are setting yourself up for failure when you identify yourself as one part of the whole picture- which is YOU.
3. Owning your story in a way that brings you value and one that allows you to speak it with confidence and conviction are the touch stones of which to step by step reach your pinnacle whatever that might look like. It does not have to be big, grand, robust- it requires vulnerability and truth on your part to share yourself. This act of sharing allows for deep connection and rep-ore. This is how relationships are built and are fostered. This is how your boat becomes moored.
4. Share your story with communities that align with your value. According to one client from the University of Delaware stated, “we have a strong need to belong. Having a strong community is of extreme importance. In my work, helping Gen Z’s or any young person who has gone through the isolation of the pandemic to find yourself and where you belong helps in all aspects of your life from the mental, physical, and psychological state of well-being.
5. Lead yourself into the world you want, Be the change you want to see in the world. Choose yourself, choose your light and the darkness will fade.
Integrate your parts into a whole. We all seek connection so put out those pieces and let them shine. I want to know your story.
It is June, and in a few short days, summer is upon us. It is time for a Pause.
Pauses may happen during natural transitions like getting in and out of your car, between meetings or calls, upon rising, or just before bed. But the pauses that restore, renew, or recharge are the ones that make us actually pause so that we can move forward,
We are starving for stillness and silence in our culture. Doesn’t it seem like there is noise and chaos everywhere? The truth is that the world will not slow down and get less noisy simply because you want it to. You have to commit to taking time to pause. I’ve grown to appreciate that pausing truly is golden.
I didn’t always feel this way. I used to surround myself with noise. I’d fall asleep with the television blaring, have pop music playing in my car and home, and talk, talk, talk until my throat was sore. Now I seek silence every day and encourage you to do the same.
The power of taking a pause is well researched. Not only does pausing promote relaxation, but a break from noise and doing also refreshes and reenergizes you for hours. Taking time just to be still and quiet gives your nervous system a chance to regain balance.
Tony Schwartz, best-selling author and CEO of The Energy Project, writes, “Human beings perform best and are most productive when they alternate between periods of intense focus and intermittent renewal.”
I have recently met with some career-minded individuals who are in burnout from sending resume after resume and being rejected. Or doing zoom interviews thinking they presented themselves in the best light only to find that they did not get the job. The constant questioning of one’s self starts to demean the inner voice, and thus the noise level becomes unbearable. What I recommend is taking the summer, playing, exploring, investigating your passion, and taking the pause to do it. You will find renewed interest, moments of joy and happiness, and above all, a great time for a restart.
How do you renew during the day?
While it’s easy to say turn off your phone and close your office door, there’s more to pausing than you might think. In fact, there are two types of noise and two types of silence to consider. If you’re really interested in feeling your best and performing your best, you will want to understand how to best recover.
Outer noise is the stuff you hear in your environment: talking, music, machines humming. There’s noise almost everywhere you go these days. Music plays in stores, restaurants, and hotel lobbies. Beeps, gongs, and whistles sound all around us. News is broadcast 24/7.
We are over-stimulated with outer noise. In fact, most of us have been conditioned to require constant music and entertainment. There is no doubt noise has become ingrained in our cultural norms.
We are over-stimulated with outer noise. In fact, most of us have been conditioned to require constant music and entertainment. There is no doubt noise has become ingrained in our cultural norms.
Inner noise is the phenomenon of being in a quiet room yet feeling as though a whole crowd of people is talking to you all at once. The voices in your head continually remind you to do this or to figure out that. Inner noise is your busy thinking mind in action, continuously bouncing around from one thought to the next and filling your mind with constant chatter.
What should we do about all of this noise? The antidote to noise is… you guessed it… silence!
It’s fairly easy to stop the incessant outer noise by finding pockets of outer silence. Turn off the noisemakers such as your laptop or television. Stopping or quieting down the inner noise takes more attention.
Settle your body by stabilizing your nervous system with coherent breathing, mediation, movement, and rhythm; your noisy mind will naturally settle down. You can also learn to access inner silence by taking a walk in the woods or playing the piano.
How do you find inner silence? What practices or activities do you do to really settle down? One of my go-to’s is my Sunday evening bath, complete with candles and soothing music.
Practice the power pause by scheduling 1-2 minute breaks every hour. Pauses may happen during natural transitions like getting in and out of your car, in between meetings or calls, upon rising, or just before bed. Better yet, set an alarm on your phone to ring with a calm chime every hour.
Once you get to know inner silence, you’ll want nothing else but to live in that space all the time.